FINDING A MOMENT OF PAUSE

By: Sarah Ballard

 

“Who are you?” said the Caterpillar.

…Alice replied, rather shyly, “I — I hardly know, sir, just at present — at least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then.”

 

I will be the first to admit, these past couple of weeks there have been a few times where I’ve had to yank myself out of the wonderland rabbit hole.

Last week, in my 10th grade health class, I began by asking the students how they were doing. A quick, casual check-in. I was taken by surprise when one of the students flipped the question and he asked me how I was doing. It gave me pause. “How am I doing?” Like Alice, I entered into a brief moment of wondering…

Regulating our emotions begins with awareness. Awareness stimulates change. Awareness doesn’t solve the problem, rather, it simply shifts and interrupts the relationship we are having with it. Think: tension to… big picture.

Anchoring”  is a nervous system regulation and awareness practice. How do we do it? Try this: next time there is an “incoming,” or you are hijacked by your thoughts, PAUSE. Use the words “right now“ and then complete the sentence. For example, “right now, I am breathing.” “Right now I am washing the dishes.” “Right now I am feeling frustrated with schoolwork.”  “Right now” names your feeling and gives it the possibility of moving to a more neutral, present, grounding experience. The Mad Hatter reminds us that things are only impossible if you believe them to be. …Find possibility in awareness.